A series problem with a reactive language is that it become a self-fulfilling prophecy, People become reinforced in the paradigm that they are determined, and they produce evidence to support the belief, They (Reactive People) feel increasingly victimized and out of control, not in charge of their life or their destiny, They blame outside forces -- other people, circumstances, even the stars -- for their own situation

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change