The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are:I need to control your every move, or you will do it wrong. I know the exact way that everything should be done. You shouldn’t have anyone else — or anything else — in your life besides me. I am going to watch you like a hawk to keep you from developing strength or independence. I love you more than anyone in the world, but you disgust me. (!!)

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men