And we hate this possibility in movies; we hate this "both" shit. "Both" comes off as sloppy characterization, muddy filmmaking, lack of focus. ... But I submit that the real reason we criticized and disliked Lynch's Laura's muddy boldness is that it required of us an empathetic confrontation with the exact same muddy boldness in ourselves and our intimates that makes the real world of moral selves so tense and uncomfortable, a boldness we go to the movies to get a couple of hours' fucking relief from.

A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again: Essays and Arguments