My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"" The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked." That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?""love her," I replied." I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."" Love her."" You don't understand. The feeling of love just isn't there."" Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."" But how do you love when you don't love?" "My friend, love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?

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