As they walked out of the store, Female said, “I was waiting for her to ask ‘Was it the one with two eyes or the one with two legs?’ Why didn’t she just ask ‘Was it the black girl or the white girl?’” Ginika laughed. “Because this is America. You’re supposed to pretend that you don’t notice certain things.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

At some point I was a Happy African Feminist Who Does Not Hate Men and Who Likes to Wear Lip Gloss and High Heels for Herself and Not For Men.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood. Be a full person. Your child will benefit from that.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Because when there is true equality, resentment does not exist.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

But by far the worst thing we do to males — by making them feel they have to be hard — is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

But by far the worst thing we do to males--by making them feel they have to be hard--is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

But why do we say nothing?" Junta asked. She raised her voice and looked at the others. "Why do we always say nothing?

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Culture does not make people. People make culture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Dear Non-American Black, when you make the choice to come to America, you become black. Stop arguing. Stop saying I'm Jamaican or I'm Ghanaian. America doesn't care.

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Don’t see it as forgiving him. See it as allowing yourself to be happy. What will you do with the misery you have chosen? Will you eat misery?

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie