Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

I am a great believer in not pushing each other’s “buttons” just because we know where they are! That’s part of trusting each other. We need to trust that our vulnerabilities and challenges are safe with the person we love.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

If a man or a woman starts “expecting” sex, then it is no longer special, and a lover will likely start to feel used.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. Furthermore, they may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.

— Cathy Burnham Martin