Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Trust means that they will never throw our pain and vulnerabilities in our face. Trust means we know they will protect us and our innermost thoughts and shared feelings without question.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotional involvement. This is loving the person inside the person… loving their very soul.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

We could choose to celebrate our differences, rather than over-analyze them. This might help us become more realistic about the generalizations to which we subscribe. For example, consider this. If women are the overemotional ones, why do so many bar fights break out between men? Such brawls do not spring from logical, calm places.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

We may repeatedly try to get our need for sex or our need for communication met by our partner. If our attempts are met with rejection over and over again, we may eventually stop asking. We tend to give up rather than keep setting ourselves up for regular rejection.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

We never want to be taken for granted, but our partners should be able to expect our honest loyalty. That is a powerfully strong foundation block for a relationship. I want to meet the greatest expectations, without being the greatest fraud.

— Cathy Burnham Martin

We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.

— Cathy Burnham Martin