All of your precious resources - time, energy, talent, passion, and money - should only go to the areas of your life or your business that are best, are fixable, and are indispensable. Otherwise, average sets in and [your life] does not become what it was designed to be.

— Henry Cloud

As a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: What you create and What you allow.

— Henry Cloud

Be careful not to give your child the impression that you love her perfect, performing parts more than you do her mediocre, stumbling parts.

— Henry Cloud

Be wary of someone who has never failed, or seem to have no faults... Too good to be true usually is. Perfection hides something.

— Henry Cloud

Boundaries help us to distinguish our property so that we can take care of it. They help us to "guard our heart with all diligence." We need to keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and keep things that will harm us outside.

— Henry Cloud

Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. By this time, they should have mastered the following tasks:1. The ability to be emotionally attached to others, yet without giving up a sense of self and one’s freedom to be apart, 2. The ability to say appropriate no's to others without fear of loss of love, 3. The ability to take appropriate no's from others without withdrawing emotionally. Noting these tasks, a friend said half-joking, "They need to learn this by age three? How about by fourth-three?" Yes, these are tall orders, but boundary development is essential in the early years of life.

— Henry Cloud

Certainly, child-rearing requires many different interventions. There are times for helping, for not getting involved, or for being strict, But the real issue is this: Is what you are going being done on purpose? Or are you doing it from reasons that you do not think about, such as your own personality, childhood, need of the moment, or fears?

— Henry Cloud

Christians who fail also avoid other Christians, especially when they are feeling bad and guilty in the midst of their failure. It's sad to see this dynamic of the law happen in the church and then see the opposite happen in Twelve Step groups. In these recovery groups, people are taught that the very first thing to do when your fail is to call someone in the group and get to a meeting. They are taught to "run to grace," as it were, to turn immediately to their higher power and their support system. The sad part is that this theology is more biblical than what is practices in many Christian environments, where people in failure run from instead of to God and the people they need.

— Henry Cloud

Clarity leads to attention and attention leads to results.

— Henry Cloud

Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.

— Henry Cloud